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Living With Fibromyalgia - Online Support Group

Is anyone having a hard time getting family and friends to understand Fibro?

#1

My husband tries to understand but I don’t think he really does. Last night when I was complaining about my pain he said he hurts just as bad from working in the yard. It really made me upset that he said that to me. I really thought he understood better than that. I just don’t know how to explain it to him. Any suggestions?

#2

Hi I am glad you reached out here. We do have some resources and tips on site here on suggestions on how to explain Fibro. I know for most of us, including myself, it can be very frustrating and discouraging when we don’t feel like others understand. I used to get really upset (and still do sometimes) when it seems like people close to me don’t understand. One thing I have done that seems to help is I try really hard to be empathetic to others. When a friend is telling me how much she hurts from what I might perceive to be a minor thing, I try to listen and empathize. Often after I have done that then I can say something like, “that is how I feel sometimes with Fibro. Sometimes I also feel . . .” I have found that people I know can relate a little
more if I am empathetic to their issues as well. I do understand how difficult Fibro is to explain. Kind of like trying to explain childbirth to someone who hasn’t experienced it. Hard to understand unless you have gone through it.

#3

Thank you for your input. Some days are harder than others to try an explain how I feel to someone that clearly doesn’t understand. I feel like women in general understand better than men. I have been told it is all in my head and I should be able to get through it. I will check out the resources on the site to see if anything can help me. Thank you again for your support and input.