Thanks GoLightly. I am slowly coming to the realization (once again!) that, like many other areas in life, this is going to be a process, a journey. There will be times of “road work” - delays, detours, traffic cones, flag men with stop signs, bumps, pot holes and all the rest. But there can be times of wonder, discovery and joy, too.
It just depends on how you look at it. We have a lot of pastures around us here. And this time of year they are next to dead. They have lost the vibrant green of spring and summer. And at first glance it is brown, dead. But if you look again, look more closely - see it? There are deep purples, reds, golden browns, yellows, oranges and yes, even some greens. In it’s own way it is still beautiful.
And I am struggling with a possible diagnosis - like you said, what is the point? It doesn’t really change anything, doesn’t really help. And I probably wouldn’t have even tried for one, except for family. I love my family dearly, but they just don’t understand. They try, but the support is very limited. In their mind, if you are sick, hurt, etc. you go to the doctor - you get a diagnosis, meds, and everything is fine. And sometimes it just doesn’t work like that. Sometimes there is no way to “make it all better.”
The doctor ruled out RA and is now saying it is just severe arthritis. And at this point, I am ok with that diagnosis. I don’t know that it makes much difference to me really and in some ways it will make it easier with family. They understand arthritis, they don’t understand fibromyalgia. I have tried for 12 years - they just don’t get it. So for me, if arthritis makes it easier for them to understand, great.