Yes, I have been getting treatment for the depression, which has helped. I still have times - almost always they are when the pain is worse or when I realize that I have some new “loss” - those things that I once did with ease but now can’t. I have often asked if I am depressed and have pain because of the depression or do I have depression because of the pain? It is a vicious cycle it seems.
As for the Psoriasis, I don’t know. I deal with dry skin often (I need to buy stock in a hand lotion company!) and that will cause itchiness; and sometimes I get patches of eczema. I’ve dealt with that for years. But the rest, not really. I have an area on my elbow that has been driving me nuts all summer with being dry and cracking or it will get a scabby-like patch which peels off and then it is raw and sore. But I don’t think that counts. And as far as I know none of my family deals with any of that.
Out of grandparents and parents we have thyroid issues (p1), diabetes (p1), Parkinson’s (p1), spinal stenosis (p1), hypoglycemia (p/g 2), stroke (g1), heart disease (g3), osteoarthritis (g2, 3?), rheumatoid arthritis (g1), macular degeneration (g1) . . . hmm, think that is it. (My thyroid checks out fine and my sugars are always in the low-normal range.)
And yes, I have had the conversations - it’s all in your head, lose weight, exercise more, eat better, live with it.
Had one Sunday in fact - they asked what I had found out at the doctor. When I told them he says arthritis, but that I felt questioned that; they told me about a friend. “She was just sure the doctor wasn’t giving her the right diagnosis and in fact was saying she was fine. So she went to Mayo and you know what they found? Nothing, nothing was wrong with her.” Ok, thank you, I get the hint.
Or the well meaning conversations with grandma - “Oh, I know what you mean, everybody up here is complaining about their (knees, backs, etc.).” Or my favorite - lovingly given on my birthday the other day - “Well, you are a year older now you know. And you just aren’t going to be able to do now what you did at 20.” Yeah, I know, but is it too much to ask to still be able to do normal housework, laundry, grocery shopping, etc? To not have to decide between sweeping/mopping the kitchen floor and fixing a decent meal for supper - because I am will not be able to do both before my body revolts. And now I am trying to figure out how to make a bed without actually making the bed because I really don’t relish a repeat of yesterday morning.
Oh, and as far as the sed rate being high - your guess is as good as mine. When that came back high he was just sure it was Rheumatoid arthritis. When that came back negative, the sed rate was suddenly no longer an issue. When I tried to ask about it, I was told it was just severe arthritis, that’s all. Discussion closed.
So now I have nearly $300 in dr. bills and lab work, I’m no closer to knowing what’s wrong than I was and with no interest from the doctor in finding out, I won’t know either. And since I lost the little income I had coming in and haven’t found a replacement income yet, I have no way to pay those bills either.
Yep, the frustration levels are at an all-time high.