DEPRESSION AND FIBROMYALGIA

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Moderator Comment by Renie on April 9, 2012 at 5:51pm

Suzanne, another great place to check out is 
http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/
The spoon theory is great---IF you can get someone to listen.  I can't ! 

Moderator Comment by Renie on April 9, 2012 at 5:39pm

Suzanne, if you're having problems with getting people to understand and be supportive, take a look at these links:

http://www.livingwithfibro.org/profiles/blogs/dealing-with-hurtful-people
http://www.livingwithfibro.org/forum/topics/family-stressors  

There are many more discussions and blogs here that are on the same topic, because it is one of THE MOST challenging things we have to deal with.  I've walked away from most of my family, those that I could, because no one believed me, they felt I was either lying or doing it for "attention".  It's very hurtful, and can cause us tremendous stress when someone in our lives chooses not to believe us, and can make our conditions much worse. Like you, thank God my husband is supportive. He's one of the VERY few that are.

 

I've always had depression, since I was young--but when I think back on it, I think I had Fibro also.  But of course, back then, there was no such diagnosis.  I was just called "lazy" most of the time, when in reality, I literally did not have the strength to do much.  So I don't know which comes first.  I also belong to a mental health support group, and it seems that EVERYONE with depression and/or other mental health issues has had a very rough month.  Have you found that you've felt worse lately?  I think this last month or so has been the most depressed I've ever been--even the medications don't touch it.

So you definitely are not alone when it comes to these things, there is always someone around who has similar experiences.  Just ask !

Hugs!  Renie ♥

Comment by Suzanne Gergel on April 9, 2012 at 3:14pm

I don't know if it's the Fibro that causes my depression or all of it together , my whole list of medical issues together .  I'm not the same person , and  still trying after years to get my family to understand . My husband gets it thank god , but the rest don't

Comment by dozer on February 13, 2012 at 1:58pm

Renie,

    There is the question of alcohol and meds. I did a lot of research on drinking with the meds. I just do not drink more than a glass and a half . They do mention it might worsen the side effects or make the meds less effective. That could be a concern But it does not say 'lethal' mixture. It must be me but I swear  my inflammation at night is less when I have a glass of wine.   

Moderator Comment by Renie on February 13, 2012 at 10:35am

Exactly!  It's just a normal response to want to defend yourself.  We live in NY, he lives in California.  Over the Holidays, he said he saw us drinking "constantly", and he was "appalled".  I want the record set straight!  If I could drink, I'm sure I would have a few, but my meds do not allow me, or my Husband!

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I don't know about you, but I must have been raised differently.  No matter what the situation, I would NEVER say some of these things to ANYONE, regardless of what was happening, or who they are!

I need to develop thicker skin - this stuff really gets to me - my whole back is cramped from neck to butt - that hasn't happened in a long time, but he has me so wound up, that I go from being viscous to crying !    I NEED A NAP! 

Comment by dozer on February 13, 2012 at 10:04am

Renie,

   I may have mentioned this but it is the insult of being called a druggie or an alcoholic that disturbs me. She lives in California and I am in Massachusetts.  I told her I had a drink maybe two with a friend recently. The next thing I know she calls me self- destructive, doped up on drugs and an alcoholic. I felt a need to defend myself. I cannot believe she emailed my entire family. If given  half a chance she would probably email my neighborhood. I have to laugh. I my mother emailed her a very humerous response to defend me, Another family member asked to be left out of the correspondences. I think it annoyed her that I was making a joke out of it. Humor is needed. I asked her if she had installed spy cameras on her last visit 4 YEARS ago.    

Moderator Comment by Renie on February 13, 2012 at 8:28am

That's just how I feel -- I would always get these emails from him, but they weren't as harmful as this one.  He called my Husband and I alcoholics (with the meds we're both on?? impossible!  Sometimes I wish I could have a drink!) -- he told me God wouldn't want me because I've "toxified" my body by smoking -- he told me that all my medical problems were due to smoking (yeah, that cigarette made me fall and shatter my leg) And he doesn't even know my medical details!  He's just grasping at straws.  But this could be very damaging if the rest of my family read them...I don't know who's side they'd believe.  Even though he did tell me I'd be stuck on earth due to not having a "light" body when the time came, according to his Guru.    So yeah, I really want to defend these accusations also.  I'm still sitting on it, trying to decide what to do--but I have to do something.  Good Luck with all this dozer !

Comment by dozer on February 13, 2012 at 8:20am

 Renie,

    I think the reason why I had addressed every comment she made was because they were so ludricous and I had the niave hope she might realize how her comments made me feel. In the past I did not and she would apologize much later and I was a fool to buy it.  But not this time. I wanted to address them all so that I never feel a need to explain myself EVER again. I do not want to provide an opportunity for her to apologize. It has moved beyond that. There is too much damage. I am done with her.   

Comment by dozer on February 13, 2012 at 8:08am

Trickie123,

    I am glad you have some support from your boyfriend. That can a big difference. My financee at the time of the accident was absolutely wonderful. At first he had a negative reaction when he found out I could do very little but then his patience and understanding took over. He also had a great sense of humor and on my worst days he tried to make me laugh. I miss that. I am a little younger and have been taking care of my mother. She needed eye surgery so I have been taking her to the dr.s. and helping her with errands. This is only possible because I am home - on disability. But even those days can wipe me out for 2 days straight.      

Moderator Comment by Renie on February 13, 2012 at 8:00am

Congrats dozer!

Really does feel great not to be constantly bashed.

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